Facing an unexpected pregnancy can feel overwhelming. Whether you have had previous pregnancies or not, finding support and resources to help you move forward well is key. Here is a list that can be helpful as you navigate the next steps.
- Some people really benefit from having the opportunity to talk about their situation in a safe and confidential place. You may need a good listening ear to share your concerns, questions and fears.
- Medical care for your baby and yourself throughout your pregnancy is needed. Set up an appointment to confirm your pregnancy and get the care and guidance that both you and your baby will need. They will help you to arrange an ultrasound and other care referrals.
- If you would like to have a mid-wife or doula make an appointment with them as soon as you know you are pregnant as many people require their services.
- Eat healthy and stay active.
- Take some time to learn about what resources are available to you in your community.
- Create a plan as you move forward. What are the items you will need to care for your baby? What would you like your birth plan to look like?
- Educate yourself. There are prenatal and parenting programs available in your community. You may be able to do them on line or in person and bring your partner or support person with you. Find books and resources to better prepare you for labor and delivery, breastfeeding and bringing your baby home.
Children thrive in a safe and secure environment. Make your home a place where your children can grow and develop well. As a parent your most important job is to love your child. When we love our children we want to protect them, teach them and keep them safe.
Where there is much you can do to prepare for your baby’s arrival, there are some things you just learn along the way. Can I encourage you to reach out when you don’t know the answers and when you need support? Children need us to be big enough to care for them and look out for them and that means getting help and support when you need it.
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A few years ago, our family made the decision that we would educate our kids from home. We had four kids, five and under and our youngest was three weeks old. I felt an enormous amount of pressure to prove that I had accomplished a lot with my kids. I dealt with the doubts and questions of family and friends, which only added to the pressure to produce results.
Our first two years did not go very well. I yelled a lot. I cried a lot. I felt like a failure a lot. I learned something in those two years, however. My kids were learning whether I was “teaching” them or not. Kids, by nature, are learners. They are constantly absorbing information from their surroundings. That’s why they need to play, to be outside, to listen to good music, to experience great literature. I learned that education did not need to be so complicated, structured, or pressure-filled. I put away my expectations for my kids to perform. They don’t need to prove to me that they’re learning things, because they do it naturally anyway.
I learned that educating my kids was more about introducing them to great things and letting their curiosity take over. I did things like reading aloud great books (I actually chose some of my favourite novels from my childhood and let them see me get excited to read them). I started taking them to a conservation area every week for a full morning and letting them explore and be fascinated. I introduced them to great music of different genres. I had them help me with different household chores and projects (it’s amazing how kids enjoy being productive and contributing to something useful). This being said, I do use a curriculum each day. I chose one that only takes about an hour and a half to finish and is largely centred around reading aloud together.
The greatest benefit of home education has been the connections I make with my kids. I get to be there when they understand something new for the first time. I get to hear them sound out a full word on their own. I get to talk them through difficult math problems. I get to talk to them about history and hear their thoughts about what they learn.
Parents, I know that this can be a hard transition. I understand the fear of having your kids fall behind. I know the pressure to recreate the classroom in your home. This can be a blessing if you let it. Your kids can be free to explore things that interest them. You can be free to experience their interests with them.
I want to challenge you to take some of the pressure to perform off of yourself and your kids and to watch them learn things without being prodded.
Most of you will eventually get back into the routine of sending your kids to school. I hope you will count this break as a privilege. You get to connect with your kids in new ways that will help to shape who they will become. This is totally possible. You can do it.
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